You have to do whats right for you, before you do whats right for your money.
You have to do whats right for you, before you do whats right for your money. What does that mean? I first heard the term from Suze Orman, in her laws of money dvd; something I had purchased second hand because I knew that it would be good for me. :PAUSE: An interesting notion, but Suze swears that doing what others think is best for you and what you think is best for your dollar is bound to have you struggling to put two pennies together. By the way, we’ve all been there, but my rewatching of the DVD led me to make some frightening discoveries, that I want to share with you- perhaps you can relate, and take some investigative steps backwards to see how you may have ended up in a financial rut and create some
Lies destroy money: truth creates it
Law number 1, Suze is absolutely serious about this one and I get it. When has a lie ever made you feel powerful? No seriously, the only time people lie is because they don’t feel powerful in their own right. REMEMBER THAT. Here’s the thing- and excuse me for jumping to law number 5 for a second, money has no power what so ever. You are the anomaly that comes into play that makes money powerful. In what you do to earn it, and further more how you spend, and I think its important to merge that law up here with law number 1 because Suze states its not just the lies you tell about yourself, what your capable of doing, and financially what you have to give, use, or make, but also, the lies that others tell you.
That being said. The biggest lie that has been perpetuated for too long as that money defines your power and your worth. It simply isn’t true. There are many things that have no monetary value that are powerful and significant; like your ability to eat, have a shelter over your head, your health. There are plenty of people, including you who may not have as much money in your wallet or in the bank as you like, but these things alone are powerful things you are able to do- whichever way you do it- HONESTLY- that say you’ve got something.
I remember when I first lost my job on the outset of the New Year, and I was surviving on $400 a month. $100 which went to internet. $120 which went to my metro transportation. Another $100 for my gas and electricity. $20 for my gym membership. The rest for my food, cat food, kitty litter, and personal toiletries- and I could not pay my rent and at times didn’t think I had enough money for groceries. Here’s the thing- my landlord let me slide for rent for 8 months, up until now and I’m trying to figure out how to pay all the back rent to keep this place within the next 2 days, the food I did buy was fresh fruits and vegetables because I was modeling to support myself and so my health and skin and body had to be on point.
I mean, practically living in poverty, but I had shelter, I learned how to utilize and stock a running pantry where so long as I had flour, beans, potatoes, spices in addition to fresh meat and produce, I could make bread, delicious meals from scratch. In many ways I was eating better than most people who had more to spend were, and looking better for it to.
Why? First off I appreciated what I had, albeit after watching Suze Orman’s DVD last night I realized that if I had understood how powerful I was and how much I had instead of comparing it to what I had, and the belief it needed to match what others were making I might have pulled myself into a better standing much quicker.
What am I trying to get at here? The truth of the matter was that I was blessed in my circumstances and created a means to be productive and powerful with less, a concept that is not introduced to us in the education of money. The universal belief is that you must have more to be more, when in reality when you are more you will create more.
I wont lie and say that it was easy, and further more I can admit that in some respects, I would believe the lie and it led to me destroying my income and surviving on $30 a month- but here’s the thing. When I was in touch with my truth of doing what I thought was best for me, so much more was done, to the extent that friends and associates that come to see me, still think I’m living better than them and think I have too much, but it had everything to do with law number 2.
You have to do what’s right for you, not what’s right for you’re money. I started the post with this statement, and I felt it was important to pull you through a bare essentials, quick tutorial to show how and why this is important. You have one life, and you of all people are the one person who gets a 24/7 input and output of this show. No one, and I mean no one is going to know what’s best for you in any given circumstance, better than you, and even if you do get it wrong, there’s more to gain to making a mistake from your own decisions than on the decision of another.
I had to write a full sheet, because Suze recommends again for you to find where you broke the financial laws that put you where you are, and honestly there were a lot.
Im not going to go into detail about what those are, cause Ive already done a lot of that. Here’s what I am going to leave you with. I want to you to WRITE DOWN, what lies you have told and have believed that have resulted in where you are financially. Where have you spent considerable time rehashing the past, and making decisions based off of what you HAD rather than what you HAVE? What decisions have you made, based off of what was best for your money or the opinions of others rather than what was best for YOU? In what ways have you let believing money defined your level of success, power, and ability- rather than focusing on how you can POWERFULLY drive your situation to create the life that you want?
Write these down.
Then check out this link for Suze Orman, because she is amazing, unfortunately retiring, but like she says, these laws are timeless and timely.
Sources: video: Suze Orman; The Laws of Money the Lessons of Life